Today when we picked up Tomas we had a list of questions for his foster family. We peppered her with questions like - Has he lost any baby teeth? What makes him feel afraid, angry, sad? What are his favorite foods? When does he sleep? Etc.
He was a bit more clingy and not quite as ready when it came time for all of us to leave. We - through our translator - told him we would take him back to the restaurant with spaghetti and that did the trick. Once he was in the van with us on our way back to Kaposvar, he was fine.
So we did the usual: park, lunch, nap, snack, and stroll.
After we dropped him back off with his foster family for the evening, we bought Addy and Caleb an ice cream. These 2 have been such big helpers. I am so thankful to have them with us in Hungary for this process.
Tuesday, August 28
The rains have gone and the day is warm again. We picked up Tomas and drove to check out the town where we will spend our 30 day bounding period. We hope to have Tomas come fully in our care on Thursday, August 30 and will move on Monday, September 3 from Kaposvar to Balatonfenyves - a cute, touristy spot on a beautiful lake.
We drove around, saw the apartment where we will be staying, then walked through the downtown area. There are several playgrounds, big grassy areas, bike and walking paths, and of course a wonderful lake for swimming. It is going to be a good spot for our family.
We took the kids to a playground and had lunch before driving back to Kaposvar for nap time.
By the end of lunch several friends had joined us.
We have noticed that transitions are especially difficult for Tomas. Completely understandable! Most children struggle with transition so is it any wonder that this little guy, who is in the process of experiencing some major changes, would be any different?!
We are doing our best to establish a regular routine to help him with expectations. Some of the daily difficulties include beginning to play at a park - he's unsure and a little hesitant - to then leaving the park - he now wants to stay. And, of course, moving back and forth between Kaposvar and his home town every day.
Tomorrow will be the last day that he will transition between our family and his foster family in the morning and evening. Thursday we will be his official guardians on our way to being formally named his parents. The major transition will be done and we will begin focusing more and more on those smaller, daily ones.
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